Family Reunions Copyright © 2008 This summer I have been particularly aware that many families are
scheduling reunions. We save our money for a long trip. Our
children meet their grandparents and cousins briefly, then we return
to our own homes. Family relations have not always been like
that. For most of the history of the earth, extended family
members lived within 25 miles of each other. The migrations that
began in the 16th century broke family lines, as oceans and continents
made visits and even letters home very difficult. The 20th century
introduced means of transportation and communication that mitigated
some of these problems. The dawn of the 21st century sees us
all with handheld devices that allow instant daily contact, potential
tools for restoring family ties. My family uses web sites and
e-mail and cell phones to communicate preparations for an efficient
gathering this weekend at a cabin resort. Plenty of networking
and socializing events are organized to get us reacquainted. Major
projects to gather and share stories of our common ancestors have
got us working together for months, resulting in a product we can
share with our grandchildren and future grandchildren.
I am always moved to tears at the joyful reunion
in Egypt of Joseph with his brothers and his father (Genesis 42-45). Jacob
was worried about his reunion with Esau, but his long estranged
brother received him graciously (Genesis 32-33). Jesus warned
that following him might cause family divisions (Matthew 19:29)
but cautioned all to honor their parents (19:19). One of His
last acts was to be sure that His mother was cared for (John 19:26-27). The
patriarchs of old blessed whole clans (Deuteronomy 33); but in the
last days much of world distress is caused because the love
of many shall wax cold (Matthew 24:12). The hearts of
the children must be turned to their fathers, or the whole earth
is cursed (Malachi 4:6). The Lord promised to restore families and
give them one heart (Jeremiah 32:37-41). Family reunions can
help by giving us a perspective of who we are, establishing relationships
of trust, giving opportunities for stories that teach, and building
inter-generational networks. The great effort of the Navajo Nation, along with the churches
and other agencies, is to to help families return to the traditional
values that include each member of the family accepting and acting
in their respective responsibilities. In traditional times,
the father would build a house and keep it supplied with food and
protection, requiring him to be gone for extended times in the hazardous
profession of hunting and gathering. The mother accepted the
responsibility of home ownership, weaving, food preparation, and
child rearing. The children learned by watching adults and
being with them, with grandparents, uncles, and aunts exerting influence
across the generations. The long internment at Fort Sumner
and the boarding schools were designed to teach Navajos to change
to an agricultural lifestyle that did not match the reality of their
environment. The traditional role of the men was taken away,
and many women set boots out by the door, and tried to raise the
children alone. Children were taken away from home into boarding
schools where they were surrounded by other children. They
could no longer learn by watching adults. A return to traditional
values would require marriages to be like planting seeds of
life and love, so the couple will live together for the rest of
their lives. The love between the couple will grow throughout the
years as they live together. They will bring new lives into this
world as they become parents and later as grandparents(Johnson
Dennison). Children should learn their adult family roles by being part of
a healthy family lifestyle. Children learn to pray as their
parents gather the family together daily (D&C 68:25, 28). Fathers
should lead by persuasion, gentleness, love, and kindness (D&C
121:41-44). Mothers create a home environment where worship
and love prepare children for the difficulties of life (Alma 53:16-23). Children
should honor and obey their parents and avoid contention (Exodus
20:12). Harmony in the home is a goal worth working toward
as each member of the family accepts and fulfills their respective
responsibilities. Coming together as extended families can
help us understand who we are and give us opportunities to influence
each subsequent generation for good. When my children were young I kept moving about, trying to raise
them close to their relatives, but nobody stayed long. It
is still hard to live near family in the 21st century, but it is
possible to stay in touch. In my family reunion, I am sure
to benefit from my brothers love and instruction, but what
I really want is for my grandchildren to know him and his grandchildren. They
will be better prepared for the challenges of life when, like Joseph
and his brothers, they can learn to know and strengthen one another. Roy Howard is the president of the Lupton Branch of the Church
of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. He can be contacted at (505)
722-3389. This column is written by area residents, representing different faith communities, who share their ideas about bringing a spiritual perspective into our daily lives and community issues. For information about contributing a guest column, contact Elizabeth Hardin-Burrola at The Independent: (505) 863-6811 ext. 218 or lizreligion01@yahoo.com. |
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