Care of shunned vet overwhelms
family
Health, behavioral problems steepen uphill
fight
By Natasha Kaye Johnson
Diné Bureau
For 64-year-old Robert Talley, time may be running out. After
being kicked out out of several residential care facilities,
Talley, who has severe health problems, found himself living
in a rundown shack in Tolakai with no one to care for him.
[Photo by Brian Leddy/Independent]
Robert Talley empties a container off of his front porch after
urinating in it. Talley's small two-room shack does not have
a bathroom, and his disability makes it difficult to go outside.
[Photo by Brian Leddy/Independent]
Talley walks in his two-room house in Tolakai. [Photo by Brian
Leddy/Independent]
Manuel Tsosie helps Robert Talley change his colostomy bag.
Tsosie, who is also a former Army serviceman, is the only
one around to help Talley change and clean the his wound,
which resulted from a bout with colon cancer. Tsosie lives
in Coyote Canyon and has taken leave from work to help find
care for Talley, but with little luck. "He had the opportunity
to go to school or something else, but he went to the service.
Now the service screwed him over," Tsosie said. "I don't know
what he's gonna do when I'm gone." [Photo by Brian Leddy/Independent]
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TOHLAKAI As the day begins to cool down, Robert
Talley, 69, sits at his kitchen table and sips on a can of cold
Coca-Cola.
The sound of radio station KGAK is vague in the background, with
old country tunes playing with commercials and announcements in
Navajo between songs.
"I like this station," he said Friday, smiling. "They
play oldies, but they're goodies."
He takes another sip of his soda, but the carbonation irritates
his colostomy bag. He takes a moment to examine it and decides that
drinking the soda hurts his stomach too much. A few moments later,
he covers the soda with a purple ashtray to keep the flies out.
With a bit of hesitation, he begins to recount memories from his
adulthood to his childhood. His recollections include planting corn
as a young boy with his father; details of the first time he tried
rubbing alcohol; and memories of his comrades in Istanbul, Turkey,
during his time in the Vietnam War. The details he shares are vivid
and often raw, and he asked that those details not be put in the
newspaper.
In an instant, the conversation switches back to what he did that
day. He points to the groceries still in their plastic bags, and
the shampoo he bought. He runs his hands through his hair, saying
that it has been three days since he washed it, but that he warmed
up some water in his Mr. Coffee as soon as he got the shampoo.
"That is a businessman coffee pot," he jokes of his coffee
maker. "The water doesn't get that hot. I want a steel one."
Two weeks earlier
The days pass slowly for Robert, and just as slow for his family,
who worry about his health and well-being.
"Some days he feels good, some days he doesn't want to be Robert,"
Manuel Tsosie, 29, an in-law to Robert, said. Robert is the uncle
to his wife, Freida Pete.
For over a month, Tsosie has been working nonstop to get his uncle
into a specialized care facility. He took a temporary leave of absence
from his construction job in Albuquerque to help his uncle. Just
two weeks ago, Tsosie, Freida, Robert's sister Molly Pete, and her
husband, Benson Pete, sat down and shared the frustration they have
been experiencing in trying to get Robert nursing care and specialized
services through Veterans Affairs and other veteran organizations.
"I've been trying to dig up all these resources here,"
Tsosie said, holding a piece of tattered papers covered with names
and phone numbers. "Everybody is shutting the door on him."
The family explained the details of Robert's health problems over
the years, starting from the early winter months of 2006. Robert's
left leg had to be amputated below the knee after a night of drinking.
He passed out in the cold weather and suffered frostbite. The frostbite
eventually led to gangrene, and his left leg and the toes on his
right leg then had to removed.
A few months later, Robert was placed into Red Rock Care, but behavioral
problems led to him being kicked out within months. The family was
able to get him into Bonney Family Home, and while minor behavioral
problems remained, the family worked with the home, and he was able
to stay.
After a few months passed, Robert's family learned that his sons
had checked him out of the nursing facility and taken him on a weeklong
drinking binge. When the binge was over, the family said that the
sons dropped Robert off at the entrance of Indian Health Service
and drove off.
He shuffled between the two care centers until his family was able
to get him back into Bonney's, where he stayed almost another year
before a continuous pain he suffered was diagnosed as colon cancer
in February. He had been diagnosed with the cancer over ten years
ago, but the family was informed that it had come back and was severe.
Robert was put on chemotherapy, and his colon was removed the next
month.
"When his foot froze, everything started to go down on him,"
said Tsosie. "His leg is gone, his health is gone. We got a
domino effect going on here."
After his surgery, Robert was admitted back into a local nursing
home, but was kicked out again for his behavior.
The family again tried to get him into a nursing home, but his previous
behavior problems prevented him from being accepted. At one point,
the family said they were told by Red Rock Care to take him to Gallup's
local detox center, Na'nizhoozhi Center.
"They told me to take him to NCI," Freida Pete, who is
23-years old. "I was like, 'For what?'"
Freida said he wasn't drinking, and when she went to NCI, they were
perplexed as to why they were suggested as a place for him.
Problems stemming from alcohol
Robert's behavior problems, his family is certain, stem from his
addiction to alcohol. For years, the family has said Robert struggled
with alcoholism, which took over his life after he came back from
the service.
They felt that they could easily get specialized services and counseling
for him, being a veteran. Instead, Tsosie said their efforts only
led to closed doors, with each organization from federal, state,
and tribal entities putting the responsibility on someone else.
"I thought it was going to be easy (to get services) because
he's a vet," Tsosie. "This book is full of names and numbers.
I'm just trying my best, but it seems like I'm running around in
circles."
Last month, the family put their money together to drive to the
VA hospital in Albuquerque, only to be told that the earliest any
beds would open up would be in six to nine months. Because he wasn't
severely disabled, Molly said hospital officials suggested that
they take him to a Salvation Army homeless shelter.
The suggestion only left her disappointed, and left a bad taste
in Tsosie's mouth.
A veteran of the Army himself, Tsosie is convinced that his uncle
was never properly assessed for psychological problems like Post
Traumatic Stress Disorder when he was discharged. Frequent conversations
his uncle shares about the war only further convince Tsosie that
Robert needs help.
"Back then it was just a revolving door," Tsosie said.
"They didn't know it was going to affect their lives in the
long run."
Daily care is difficult
Because he is not being professionally taken care of, the family
fears that Robert will get sick from an infection. Although the
family attempts to take care of him, they said they don't really
know how to deliver proper care.
"The hardest part is his diet," Tsosie said.
Each day, Molly walks to her brother's home down the road to bring
him three square meals a day. But they often learn that he wasn't
able to eat some of the foods she brought.
"I don't really eat all of this," Robert said about his
food. "All of a sudden it pops."
The poor conditions of the home also worry the family. The home
is 65 years old and was the where Molly and her siblings were raised.
"This is not a place for handicap," Molly Pete, who is
74-years old, said. "It's about to fall apart."
Ever since they were children, Molly said she has been close to
her brother and has watched over him. She recalled times when they
were young, and how he would help their father with the sheep and
the horses. But things changed after he came back from the war,
she said.
"He was already drinking when he came back from the service,"
Molly said.
Molly said his drinking became worse, and his family kicked him
out.
"Then he came back here. Pretty soon he became what you call
an alcoholic," said Molly. "He kept losing his money for
liquor."
Robert openly shared the first time he ever drank. It was when his
brother Pete was discharged from the Korean War, and returned back
home from his service base in El Paso.
"I was 16," said Robert, in-between conversation with
his family. "I didn't like it."
It would be only a few months later when Robert would enlist in
the service himself. He became part of the 101st Airborne Division
and was stationed at Ft. Campbell in Kentucky. He recalled times
spent at a soldiers' club near the ocean and an officers' club,
when beer was 10 cents a can, and how they were given free alcohol
and cigarettes while in the service.
Four years later, Robert was discharged and he returned home to
Tohlakai, and began working for the railroad.
Over the years, the family said Robert struggled with alcohol and
would go on drinking binges, disappearing for long periods of time.
Three years ago, they said, he was gone for over a month, which
was unusually long.
They started calling the police, detox centers, and homeless shelters,
but were unable to locate him. Desperate to find him, the family
made flyers and posted them in Gallup and Albuquerque. Then one
day, their niece noticed him on the streets while she was riding
the Albuquerque city bus.
"We missed him," Molly Pete said. "I was worried
about him."
After they found him, Molly said they had to convince him to come
back.
"He kind of didn't want to come back, but I told him his home
is over here," she said. "He said, 'I've been thinking
about it (home).'"
Though Molly tries to help her brother, traditional teachings she
was raised with limit what she can do.
"In the traditional way, you can't touch your brother's body,"
Benson Pete said.
Staying at home
The family not only worries about his physical well being, but his
emotional well being also.
"I think he's getting lonely," Molly said.
When asked what he does to pass the time by himself, Robert said
he reads books.
"I read the encyclopedia," he said.
He said he also reads books on mechanics and electrical wiring that
he got from the Navajo Book Project several years ago.
Robert shared his own frustrations of not being able to get into
a home, and often times his family said he jokes about the whole
situation. "He said, 'I might just slip to get back in (the
hospital),'" Tsosie said.
His joking scares the family, and often times they don't know what
to think about it.
"I just want him to get a place where he can stay and they
can help him with changing," Molly said.
"We care for him," Benson said. "We try to help him
every way we can."
With a history of alcoholism, Tsosie feels that his uncle has been
pushed to the side as being hopeless, and it's emotional for him
to see that treatment first hand.
"He could have done a lot of things with his life, but he went
to the service," said Tsosie. "The fact that nobody has
accepted him, it's a real killer. It's just sad the way he's being
treated."
This past Wednesday, on Independence Day, Robert turned 69 years-old.
But his family fears that he might not see another birthday.
Saturday evening, Molly walked over to him bring dinner as she usually
does, and found him hunched over the floor of his kitchen."I
was trying to pick him up, but he was too heavy," said Freida.
Tsosie said he had drunk rubbing alcohol, and an ambulance came
to take him to Indian Health Service.
"He's a danger to himself. We're all afraid he's going to do
something else," Tsosie said. "Nobody is taking us seriously."
Although the memories of her uncle's addiction often over-shadow
good memories, Freida keeps the happier times with him close to
her heart.
"He used to really play the guitar," Freida said, remembering
how her uncle would trade items at the pawn shop to accumulate a
collection of guitars.
"I remember I was 9 or 10, he was playing the guitar and he
put me on his lap. That's the first time I remember playing the
guitar with him."
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