Human Not Perfect
By Rev. Linda Rounds-Nichols Occupational hazards we all have them, whether
or not we are in an occupation. We all have expectations, as well.
Normally, we may be unaware of these .hazards or expectations, but
when they are suddenly in our faces, we notice that
they exist. This can be unsettling, uncomfortable, and yet
if we are blessed we may gain the lesson. This comes to mind,
because I have had a few situations in the past few weeks and months
in which hazards and/or expectations have been in my face. I heard a story recently about someone who wanted
to talk to a member of the clergy about some spiritual insights.
My expectation is that the clergy person would be very willing to
have such a conversation. So, in hearing that, instead, the clergy
person pointed out all of the reasons this person would not be chosen
to have spiritual insights, I was pretty shocked. That led me to
think about an occupational hazard of the clergy we are to
be available, welcoming, understanding, loving, and so on. Yet,
we are also very human. Sometimes we are tired, confused, and say
the wrong thing. Saying the right vs. wrong thing, or the expectation
that as a minister, rabbi, priest, chaplain, or other spiritual
leader we will always say the right thing is another expectation/hazard.
A friend called me recently to ask how to deal with a life-death
situation. She called me because she felt I would know exactly what
she should do and what she should say. Oh, that it were so! As one
of the pastoral care providers at RMCHCS, I am sometimes called
to the hospital when there is a crisis. Maybe my colleagues walk
in, confident that they will provide exactly what is necessary,
but I know I dont. In fact, sometimes it feels that there
is no right thing to do or say. Actually, maybe the right vs. wrong is in the eye
of the beholder. This came up in an interesting conversation recently.
Christians often use the Bible to explain to non-Christians why
Christianity is right. To the Christian, the Bible is
right and the authoritative guide. Yet, to the non-Christian, the
Bible is just another spiritual book, so quoting it has no more
authority than quoting something else. In this case, the expectation
of one person might be seen as a hazard by another. And this could be a lesson some of these in
my face experiences is providing. We all see the world from
our own viewpoints. We all have expectations, core beliefs, values,
etc. that direct our behavior. Yet, perhaps we forget that others
may have other expectations, core beliefs, values, etc. Rather than
assuming the worst and instantly blaming each other, perhaps we
need to consider situations from different viewpoints. Questions for reflection might be: What might he/she
be assuming about my action (whether or not the assumption accurate)?
How am I feeling when I act this way (because we probably do sometimes)?
What could I do differently? The expectations that all people will
like us, and we will like all people; that we will do and say the
right things; that our explanations will be understood from our
points of view; and so on, may be occupational hazards of being
human. So, whats the right thing to do
about this? Perhaps the lesson is about love and forgiveness. We
need to work on self-love, loving others, and loving our Creator.
We also need to seek forgiveness. We need especially to forgive
ourselves. Perhaps we will never meet all of our own self-expectations,
but thats okay were human not perfect! Rev. M. Linda Rounds-Nichols, a priest in the Church
of Antioch and a student of inter-faith ministry, provides pastoral
care and spiritual direction, advocates for acceptance of the religion
of all people, and is especially interested in helping women connect
with their own special spiritual issues through an investigation
of Womyns Spirituality. This column is written by area residents, representing different faith communities, who share their ideas about bringing a spiritual perspective into our daily lives and community issues. For information about contributing a guest column, contact Elizabeth Hardin-Burrola at The Independent: (505) 863-6811 ext. 218 or lizreligion01@yahoo.com. |
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